The Psychology Behind "Look what you made me do."
The Psychology: This is Externalization of Blame. In his mind, he is a helpless victim of your actions. This is a major precursor to emotional or physical abuse.
Subconscious Intent: To condition you to walk on eggshells. He wants you to believe that you are in control of his bad behavior.
DANGER: How to Respond
DANGER: This is a high-level red flag. Remove yourself from the situation. You are never responsible for another adult's choices or actions.